THE
PSYCHOLOGY OF BACKSLIDING - PART 2 (PETER)
(7 SYMPTOMS
OF BACKSLIDING)
BY ‘MUYIWA OMOLE
In the first
part of this study, we looked at the downward slide of Lot from covenant to
destruction. We saw him in light of the first verse in the book of Psalms. We
saw how Lot WALKED, STOOD and eventually SAT in the “ways of sinners.”
The Bible
tells us that “…all these things happened to them as examples, and they were
written for our admonition… (I Corinthians 10:11). The essence of this study is
for us find our picture in the word and make corrections where required.
Today, I will
like us to study the life of Peter, with emphasis on HOW he fell. What are the
symptoms of backsliding as we can see in the life of Peter? The 7 points here
are mainly gleaned from Matthew chapter 26, which talks about the arrest and
crucifixion of Christ. I encourage you to read the whole account to be able to
grasp the lessons therein.
1.
PRIDE
Peter answered and said unto him,
Though all men
shall be offended because of thee,
yet will I never be offended. Jesus said unto him,
Verily I say unto thee, That this night, before
the cock crow,
thou shalt deny me thrice.
Peter said unto him, Though I should die with
thee,
yet will I not deny thee.
Likewise also said all the disciples.
Matthew
26:33: 35
Pride (self-confidence
or over-confidence) is the beginning of backsliding. Some people think they
have been born again for so long that they cannot backslide. The very thought
that you cannot fall is actually the first sign that you are about to.
Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a
fall.
Proverbs 16:18
…let him that
thinketh he standeth take heed lest he fall.
I Corinthians 10:12
Please know
it that ANYBODY can backslide:
·
Noah was
backslidden when he got drunk.
·
Abraham was
backslidden when he lied about Sarah.
·
Lot was
backslidden when he moved into Sodom.
·
Samson was
backslidden when he lay in the bosom of a harlot and again when he laid his
head in the lap of Delilah.
·
David was
backslidden when he committed adultery with Bathsheba; tried to deceitfully
cover it up and had her husband killed in battle.
So do not
let the enemy deceive you.
2.
PRAYERLESSNESS
And he cometh
unto the disciples, and findeth them asleep,
and saith
unto Peter, What, could ye not watch with me one hour?
Watch and
pray, that ye enter not into temptation:
the spirit
indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.
He went away
again the second time, and prayed, saying,
O my Father,
if this cup may not pass away from me,
except I
drink it, thy will be done.
And he came
and found them asleep again:
for their
eyes were heavy.
Matthew 26:40
-43.
This sin of prayerlessness was a direct result of Peter's first sin of
self-confidence. When the disciples accompanied Jesus to the Mount of Olives,
He specifically instructed Peter, James, and John to pray (Luke 22:40). But they fell asleep. They failed in praying. If they
weren't so full of self-confidence, I am sure they would have been praying.
That happens to us too. D.L. Moody or A. W. Tozer ( I am not sure now) said,”you
cannot pray and sin and you cannot sin and pray.” Prayer puts us on fire and
makes passion available for the things of God.
Why was
Jesus able to pray here and the disciples were not? Why were they comfortable
when the Son of Man was in a defining moment just few metres away? Simple: “… for
their eyes were heavy.” The burden was in their eyes when it was
supposed to be in their heart. What is the condition of your heart? The things
that used to give you burden to pray, do they still move you?
3.
SLEEPING
And he cometh
unto the disciples, and findeth them asleep,
and saith
unto Peter, What, could ye not watch with me one hour?
Watch and
pray, that ye enter not into temptation:
the spirit
indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.
He went away
again the second time, and prayed, saying,
O my Father,
if this cup may not pass away from me,
except I
drink it, thy will be done.
And he came
and found them asleep again:
for their
eyes were heavy.
Matthew 26:40
-43.
The next thing
we saw Peter doing here was that he was sleeping. When you become comfortable
and complacent, when fire stops on the altar of your prayer life and you begin
to take study of the word lightly, backsliding is setting in. Check your
craving for fellowship with God and your passion for the things you used to do
for the kingdom.
Be sober, be
vigilant; because your adversary the devil,
as a roaring
lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour:
1Peter
5:8.
4.
REVERTING TO THE FLESH
And,
behold, one of them which were with Jesus stretched out his hand,
and drew
his sword, and struck a servant of the high priest's,
and
smote off his ear.
Matthew 26:51
This “one of
them” was Peter (See John
18:10).
It is
interesting to see this account from the perspective of Luke. Luke 22:49, 50 says,
“When they which were about him saw what would follow, they said unto
him, Lord, shall we smite with the sword? And one of them (Peter)
smote the servant of the high priest, and cut off his right ear.” In other
words, some of the other apostles were thinking about drawing
their swords, but they thought it best to ask the Lord if that
was OK. But Peter did not wait to hear from the
Lord, he just pulled out his sword and chopped the man’s right ear off.
One of the
ways we can tell if we are backsliding is that we try to solve problems in the
flesh, in other words not allowing God to intervene. We begin to lean on our
own understanding and revert to the ways we used to handle matters before we
came to Christ.
5.
FOLLOWING FROM AFAR
But Peter
followed him afar off unto the high priest's palace,
Matthew
26:58a
Peter
stays far enough away so as not to be identified with Him. Peter was
unprepared for facing ridicule and persecution. Except we take heed we
too can become guilty of cowardice.
Following from afar can manifest in being ashamed to be seen carrying a Bible, ashamed
to be seen witnessing, ashamed to be seen with other Christians, even being ashamed
to let others know that we are Christians. It also manifest in isolation. When you
begin to isolate yourself, you begin to drift away from the folk.
Hear how Greg Laurie put this point: "Do
you ever watch those nature programs where the lion will go after a certain
animal? It is always an antelope that is about 10 feet behind the pack that
gets picked off. In the same way in our lives, when we are at a distance from
God's people, when we are at a distances from the church, when we are at a
distance from God, we know that trouble will ensue and it sure did for Simon
Peter."
James 4:8
says, “Draw nigh to God,
and he will draw nigh to you.”
6.
SITTING WITH THE ENEMY. (WORLDLINESS).
But
Peter followed him afar off unto the high priest's palace,
and went
in, and sat with the servants, to see the end.
Matthew
26:58
Does that
remind you of Lot? From drifting the backslider becomes more comfortable in the
midst of unbelievers. These were the servants of the High Priest, who at that
moment was an enemy of Christ. But Peter was comfortable sitting in their
midst. That is a serious symptom of backsliding. He was trying to fit in,
trying to blend in, whenever we try to blend into the world, whenever we try to
fit into the world, we are backslidden.
We are in
the world but we should not be of the world!
Let’s see
this from the account of Luke to learn more:
Then took
they him, and led him,
and brought
him into the high priest's house.
And Peter
followed afar off.
And when they
had kindled a fire in the midst of the hall,
and were set
down together,
Peter sat
down among them.
Luke 22:54,
55
Peter is seen here sitting with the servants of the High Priest and
warming himself by the fire. Ashamed to
be seen with Christ, it becomes easy to mingle with those of the world and
enjoy their comforts. But one
cannot be "comforted by the fire" of the world, and not be
"burned!"
A sign of backsliding or a state of your relationship with the Lord can be seen in your association. The Bible says we should “…have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them.” (Ephesians 5:11)
A sign of backsliding or a state of your relationship with the Lord can be seen in your association. The Bible says we should “…have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them.” (Ephesians 5:11)
By the time we become "friends with the
world," it is only a short time before we take the next and final step of
backsliding...
7. OPENLY DENYING CHRIST
But he denied
before them all, saying,
I know not
what thou sayest.
And when he
was gone out into the porch,
another maid saw him,
and said unto
them that were there,
This fellow
was also with Jesus of Nazareth.
And again he
denied with an oath,
I do not know
the man.
And after a
while came unto him they that stood by,
and said to Peter, Surely thou also art one
of them;
for thy
speech betrayeth thee.
Then began he
to curse and to swear, saying,
I know not
the man. And immediately the cock crew.
And Peter remembered the word of Jesus,
which said unto him,
Before the cock crow,
thou shalt deny me thrice.
And he went out, and wept bitterly.
Matthew 26:70-75
The saddest
and final step is when the backslider denies the Lord Jesus Christ. Three
times, and with strong oaths and curses upon his lips, did Peter deny our Lord
– just as our Lord had warned him he would.
His continue
backslidden ways had lead him to a complete denial that he had known Jesus! That’s
what happens to person who stays backslidden, you cannot even see any evidence
that they had ever know the Lord or ever followed Him!
You can see
that backsliding does not start overnight. There are symptoms. . Peter started backsliding little by
little. At any stage of this downward movement you find yourself you
can repent today and return to the Lord.
In the next
lesson we are going to see the roadmap to restoration. We will learn how we can
travel from the state of backsliding to the position of blessing. The good news
is that this was not the end of Peter. He bounced back from out denying Christ
to becoming a prominent preacher of the gospel. As a matter of fact he later gave
us some of the antidotes to these symptoms in his letters. It means you can
rise too. Dust yourself off and return to the Lord. His arms are opened wide.





